I remember getting to a certain point in my life where I wanted to have conversations that didn’t revolve around my kids.
For the first few years, especially for me, because I had friends with the same age kids, all we talked about were our kids.
What they were eating, how they were sleeping, how much they were pooping, who they looked like, how they talked etc.
I get that your life literally revolves around these tiny humans, and you spend all day every day with them. It’s only natural that 99% of your conversations revolve around them as well.
I remember getting to a point where I was really struggling with being “just” a stay at home mom.
People would ask what I had been up to, and I would just say, “not much just hanging out with the kids. “
I hated that response. I literally had nothing else to talk about but my kids. And when your speaking to people who DONT have kids, I always found this to be a very “boring” topic for them.
I took this as people who don’t have kids, didn’t really care to be around me anymore. I had nothing to contribute to a real conversation because my life consisted of sleepless night, wiping butts, looking at poop and deciphering if it was normal, trying to figure out what certain cries meant, and constantly trying to control snot from covering everything in my home.
About 2 years ago I started going to yoga, and last spring I did a 40 day transformation program with my yoga studio. This pushed me to explore my passions.
I fell in love with yoga, and started taking photography courses.
There are a few rewards in picking up a new hobby, especially when it doesn’t involve anyone but yourself.
I found something I could do on my own. ALL on my own. I can be in the worst mood and be on the verge of tears all day, go to yoga, and come out feeling amazing.
I go to a photography session, and learn something new every time. As soon as it’s over, I can’t wait to plug the card in and get editing.
These are things that make me feel good. They recharge me when I’m feeling empty. And I think every parent needs at least one thing they can do on their own. For may husband this is golf, which I have a love hate relationship with. It takes all day to do, which I hate…. but it makes him feel good, which I love.
I think finding something to talk about besides my kids has made me feel….. more like I’m my own person .
Don’t get me wrong, I still talk about my kids… ALOT.
But I’m not just a wife, and a mother.
I’m also a yogi, a photographer, a blogger, a bit of a natural health advocate, a reader, a creator, and now I’m one of those people who wears a blanket as a shirt, because “yolo.”
Do people even say that anymore? I think the people that probably used to say it on a regular basis are not dead because of all the stupid sh!t they did when referring to it, anyways…
We are so much more than “just” a mom or dad.
Don’t forget who you were before you had kids. Chances are you are not a rowdy teen who parties hard and makes stupid decisions anymore. That being said, you can still be whoever you want to be. You just need to find your “new you” and nurse it like a baby since you’re a pro at it now anyways.